ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

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Just want to share this article I found online from an unknown author. It's a must READ!

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

Sad Quotes

< Sometimes the pain's too strong to bare...and life gets so hard you just don't care.  You feel so alone you just sit and cry...every second you wish you could die.  Then you start thinking who would care...if one day they woke up-and you weren't there.

< Know what it's like to want to die.  How it hurts to smile.  How you try to fit in but you can't.  How you hurt yourself on the outside, to try to kill the pain on the inside.

< Just because her eyes don't tear doesn't mean her heart doesn't cry.  And just because she comes off strong, doesn't mean there's nothing wrong.

< Never underestimate the pain of a person because the truth is everyone is struggling.  It's just some people hide it better than others.

> love changed me.. the way i think, the way i act,
the way i decide..
sometimes, i even go against my principles
and beliefs in life..
loving doesn't mean i'll always be happy..
sometimes, all it provides me is pain and misery..
yet i was blinded by strong emotions
that i failed to see reality..
sometimes, letting go is the answer..
it hurts like hell, but i will soon realize that
it's better to see the person i love to be happy with someone else than to be lonely with me..

> there are things in life that you can't hold on forever, no matter how hard you fight for it..
sometimes destiny isn't always good, it becomes playful..
when you met someone you learned to love,
you thought it was destiny who made your paths cross..
but what if making your paths cross is just a part of the game that the playful destiny creates?
making you realize in the end that the person you thought was destined for you wasn't really meant to stay..
but is only destined to make you feel loved
and leave you when you've already fallen..

i'm holding on to the thought that you're not mine anymore..
coz i know you already love someone else..
i'm gonna look at you in the eye, smile and say,
"you're not mine anymore.."
then walk away, turn around the last second and say,
"but i wish you were.."

> loving isn't what we see but what we feel..
not how we listened but how we understand..
not how we forget but how we forgive..
loving is holding on even when the pain dares you to let go..

> i didn't even asked him to love me..
all i wanted was a friendship to last a lifetime..
still he chose to be a stranger,
leaving soon after he captured my heart..

> "if pain must come, may it come quickly..
becuase i have a life to live and i need bto live it in the best way possible.. if he has to make a choice, may he make it now.. then i will either wait for him or forget him..
waiting is painful, forgetting is painful,,
but not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering.."

> everyday i soak myself with reasons to forget him..
everyday i lie..
everyday i try to find strength to get me through..
and yet, everyday i die..

> i wasn't aware that he came only to love me for a while..
i was aiming to be with him forever but he's not willing to work it all out.. it hurts too much but all i can do is watch him go away.. and that's the end of it..
there goes my forever.. there goes my life..
i know he's gone but holding on to him has became my way to keep me alive..

> "leaving s love you've suddenly outgrown can be heart breaking
but it only shows you are strong enough to walk away from a relationship that no longer makes you happy.
moving out of your comfort zone can be downright scary...
but it also proves how brave you are to take on the unknown.
stronger, braver and wiser...
you always do a little growin' up everytime you do a little letting go..."=)

> "we don't look for love because its lonely to watch movies alone.
because its sad to eat meals on our own,
because its nice to cuddle up with someone on rainy days...

we look for love because we want to be accepted..
for the sloppy way we dress, for the clumsy way we eat our meals, for the bad hair days and for the simplicity in us...

love is an act of acceptance...that with all our imperfections, we are accepted and loved."